A friend of mine back in Chi-town is having a holiday cockatil party. Of course, like the majority of parties he has thrown in the last 10 years, I will not be able to attend, as I do not have the money for a plane ticket for one night. However, that gets me to thinking (a dangerous proposition, to be sure).
What has happened to the cocktail party?
Decades ago, cocktail parties were IT. I remember being a little girl, surrounded by my parents and their friends, everyone laughing and having a good time, drinking this or that, until the wee hours. In my house, parties like this usually marked a special event, like holidays or birthdays, but in general, cocktail parties were had by all. They gave an aura, as I look back with childish eyes, of elegance and ease, and a type of easygoing yet adult social activity. As I grew older, however, they seemed to be replaced by bars, coffeeshops and meat markets. Now, I'm not against coffeeshops or bars, especially if they're not too smoky. I detest meat markets, unless I'm there with friends to laugh at the desperatioon and bald spots (NO COMBOVERS!!! PLEASE!). But how I wish that we had a current version of the cocktail party.
Girlzoot threw a cocktail party last New Years. Other than drinking a bit too much, I had a lovely time. We all dressed up and spent a lovely time hanging out and trying various drinks. It was great. I want more of that. It's holiday time. This is the perfect time of year for it. You can make your spiked eggnog, maybe have a Tom and Jerry party, or just basics: martinis, old fashioneds, gin and tonics, as well as the newer round of drinks like, in homage to TR, an appletini. And you don't even have to get drunk. Depsite my personal record, cocktail parties are a time to, inexplicably, get dressed up and let your hair down. The cocktails are a garnish to the experience, not necessarily the focus.
So, I beg of you, the world at large, return to the cocktail party!! Find that little black dress, or that suit you haven't worn in a while, and invite your friends over for an evening. Try something new in the cocktail world, or at least new to you. Most importantly, have fun.