I made a life decision last week. I found myself sitting in my office, ready to cry my eyes out, and I didn't know why. So I started some soul-searching. What I came up with was I wasn't happy, and hadn't been for a very long time.
What a stupid way to go through life. But why, you ask? What caused this morass you found your soul in? The answer: my own psychic hang-ups. Lemme 'splain... no, it take to long.. lemme sum up...
I have issues with disappointment. This manifests in various ways, but the most troublesome manifestation is that I will go to extreme ends to not disappoint those I care for. And so, I have been following a path that was not right for me.. I think. My career choices at this point are to go find a job in industry or to stay in academia and try to set up my own laboratory. About a year ago, after much waffling, I decided to go into academia. An academic's life is hard, especially with the difficulties in getting funding, and I have serious doubts as to whether I would be successsful, but I decided to do it anyway.
Why? Well, because I like the academic life and the freedom to choose my own projects, etc., etc. Good reasons. The ones I didn't admit to myself are because I felt I SHOULD go that way and because I felt like a cop out if I didn't. I was holding myself up to a perceieved, nonexistant standard for my career.
This was my realization last week. So I started to think about what would make me truly happy at this point in my life. Here's the list:
Get a job that I can leave at work
Be respected by my peers.
Be a good scientist
Stay in Colorado
Be happy
That first one is the one that made me make a decision. If I take the academic route, I will spend the next 5-10 years sweating, lying awake at night (as I am alredy doing), worrying about getting funding. In industry, that stress, at least, goes away. And I will do well in industry. I have appropriate skills and a good work ethic.
So that's that. I'm looking for a job in industry. As far as staying in Colorado, well, in academia that chance was none. Now its risen to slim.